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PostPosted: 04 Jun 2012, 19:11 
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Have any of you confide in anyone? Several?

If you do, would you rather confide in the same sex, or the opposite sex, friends or a potential girlfriend?

If you did - How did it go?

You who have tried and failed in DSR how did you handle the LS issue?

You know why I ask, i need some helping thoughts on the subject. As you said I must bring up the subject...

Help Please...

My feelings are that he can be as nervous as he wants or need to be for all I care.
He is the one suffering not me.
I just want to be with him, that is what is important. This is how I feel, but not sure if that is a good way to express myself :? The message I want to send is that he doesn't need to feel ashamed, or feel att risk at being ridiculed.

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The_woman wrote:
Have any of you confide in anyone? Several?

A couple. Since 2010 or so.

The_woman wrote:
If you do, would you rather confide in the same sex, or the opposite sex, friends or a potential girlfriend?

Opposite sex, cousin.

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If you did - How did it go?

Well at first it kinda helped, but not so much long.

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You who have tried and failed in DSR how did you handle the LS issue?

I didn't, that's the problem. I woul'd have failed otherwise.

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You know why I ask, i need some helping thoughts on the subject. As you said I must bring up the subject...

Help Please...

My feelings are that he can be as nervous as he wants or need to be for all I care.
He is the one suffering not me.
I just want to be with him, that is what is important. This is how I feel, but not sure if that is a good way to express myself :? The message I want to send is that he doesn't need to feel ashamed, or feel att risk at being ridiculed.

Can't help you sorry.

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My confiding in similar experienced people is rejected. Save energy. Keep it to yourself.


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The_woman wrote:
Have any of you confide in anyone? Several?


online to several people, in 'real life' don't think so, not explicitly

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If you do, would you rather confide in the same sex, or the opposite sex, friends or a potential girlfriend?


the opposite sex/potential gf

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You who have tried and failed in DSR how did you handle the LS issue?


Haven't really tried anything since i became aware of this condition 1,5 year ago, before i tried several times, the only time i was 'in love' i really did everything i could to overcome it and to make the best of it but still got rejected. How did that affect me? I became angry and bitter.

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I haven't really noticed you to be a standard case, Mitchell. Would you like to talk about it? You seem borderline normal to me.


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I haven't really noticed you to be a standard case, Mitchell. Would you like to talk about it? You seem borderline normal to me.


Whats a standard case really? No 2 cases will be alike.

I guess that over the years i became very good at either pretending i'm fine or to simply stop caring and stop hoping anything is going to change.

Or i just focus on other things that can bring some sense of fulfilment to my life like working out or hobby's but deep down i want nothing more then to be in a loving committed relationship with a woman i love but i don't believe such a thing is possible anymore so i stopped hoping for it.

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Have any of you confide in anyone? Several?
If you do, would you rather confide in the same sex, or the opposite sex, friends or a potential girlfriend?

I'm pretty much still in the LS closet, aside from my parents you people of this fine forum are the only others who know. I'm not really comfortable talking to anyone outside of my family about it, I doubt any of my friends would understand anyway. I'd be willing to open up to a significant other if I ever find one, especially if she's on the quiet/shy side and I feel an actual connection/trust.

If you did - How did it go?
My parents felt pretty bad when they learned how I felt(feel) about myself, the bullying, and other stuff in my past that led me to this point.

You who have tried and failed in DSR how did you handle the LS issue?
I dunno exactly how to answer this...I mean I've been through therapy, I'm on meds, and I've taken steps to understand and combat the effects of LS/Social Anxiety/BDD. I basically forced myself to do exposure therapy in the form of waiting tables and joining multiple dating sites. The dating sites were honestly a double edged sword. You can find multiple threads on this forum detailing the typical user experience of what the actual "service" is like, but I do have to say that the few dates I pulled did help me gain some well needed experience. While none of them yielded anything in the DSR department past the first date, each one was a learning experience. I can definitely say I'm in a better place now then where I started, but I still have a lot to go. Overall I think it's important to remember it's a process, these type of things don't just go away, but one can learn to take control and live with it.


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No one but the good people of LS.com.
I have documented my LS-busting project here.

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I tried revealing it to my dad a while back. He just wouldn't have any of it. In fact, he went so far as to throw my porn addiction, while growing up, square in my face. After I purchased my Elvis Presley Leather Jacket (the one in my avatar), my family thought I had "turned gay". They expressed their concerns on more than a few occasions, but I gave up defending myself. If they think I'm gay, then fuck em. Society already thinks I am based on the fact I'm a reserved male who works and sleeps far more than he plays.

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I tried revealing it to my dad a while back. He just wouldn't have any of it. In fact, he went so far as to throw my porn addiction, while growing up, square in my face. After I purchased my Elvis Presley Leather Jacket (the one in my avatar), my family thought I had "turned gay". They expressed their concerns on more than a few occasions, but I gave up defending myself. If they think I'm gay, then fuck em. Society already thinks I am based on the fact I'm a reserved male who works and sleeps far more than he plays.


That is interesting, because I've had some similar experiences recently where people sort of covertly suggested that I'm gay. I was talking to a neighbor lady the other day and midway through our discussion she starts talking about her son and how good looking he is (she actually mentioned how "good looking he is" over half a dozens times and kept emphasizing it) and she goes on to say how proud she is that he's openly gay, and I'm just standing there thinking WTF?


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Not_Your_Average_Joe wrote:
I tried revealing it to my dad a while back. He just wouldn't have any of it. In fact, he went so far as to throw my porn addiction, while growing up, square in my face. After I purchased my Elvis Presley Leather Jacket (the one in my avatar), my family thought I had "turned gay". They expressed their concerns on more than a few occasions, but I gave up defending myself. If they think I'm gay, then fuck em. Society already thinks I am based on the fact I'm a reserved male who works and sleeps far more than he plays.


That is interesting, because I've had some similar experiences recently where people sort of covertly suggested that I'm gay. I was talking to a neighbor lady the other day and midway through our discussion she starts talking about her son and how good looking he is (she actually mentioned how "good looking he is" over half a dozens times and kept emphasizing it) and she goes on to say how proud she is that he's openly gay, and I'm just standing there thinking WTF?


Yeah... well I'm not leading a very active social life ATM. And unless I'm at work, I shy away from human interaction. It doesn't matter to me what anyone "thinks" of me anymore. I live life by my own rules.

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Have any of you confide in anyone? Several?


No.

And to answer the other questions: Not applicable.

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Not_Your_Average_Joe wrote:
I tried revealing it to my dad a while back. He just wouldn't have any of it. In fact, he went so far as to throw my porn addiction, while growing up, square in my face. After I purchased my Elvis Presley Leather Jacket (the one in my avatar), my family thought I had "turned gay". They expressed their concerns on more than a few occasions, but I gave up defending myself. If they think I'm gay, then fuck em. Society already thinks I am based on the fact I'm a reserved male who works and sleeps far more than he plays.


That is interesting, because I've had some similar experiences recently where people sort of covertly suggested that I'm gay. I was talking to a neighbor lady the other day and midway through our discussion she starts talking about her son and how good looking he is (she actually mentioned how "good looking he is" over half a dozens times and kept emphasizing it) and she goes on to say how proud she is that he's openly gay, and I'm just standing there thinking WTF?

Yea I would definitely consider that a WTF moment there. As for myself just coming to realize this about myself, I don't plan on sharing this with anyone. I figure it's my issue and ill deal with it.

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I've only shared with my fellow L-S.com members.
When ever I've tried to open up to someone IRL they've stabbed the tender bits with sharp objects instead of helping so I keep my shell tightly locked.

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