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PostPosted: 15 Jul 2010, 06:29 
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Me: Why ask a question you already know the answer to?
Him: Just askin'. I know this lady who seems to be interested in you, based on the pics I've shown her.
Me: Let me guess: She's twice my weight, possibly pregnant and smells like old milk...
Dude: Yeah, she's the first two things. But you gotta start somewhere.
Me: Right. I can finally enact my voraphillic fantasy by snuggling into her folds and asking her unborn child to move over. [/sarcasm]
Him: ...what's vore?

That made me laugh out loud. Yeah, the last time I got asked that, it was some girl who I was hanging out with, who I was interested in, but had a boyfriend (A "mangina" moment for me)
She (very casually): so are you a virgin?
Me (with a chuckle and a smirk): What?! I don't have to answer that!
She: haha, it's just a question!
Me: well are you a virgin?
She; Well- oh wait, I see what your trying to do.

I was able to quickly switch subject and she forgot about it. I feel like I'm good enough at talking circles around people that i've been able to avoid the subject for a while.

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I think noncels carry themselves differently most definitely. Its like a guy who pooped his pants. You cant see it upfront, but eventually it will be detected.


Ha! What a great analogy. Did you just come up with that? 8)


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No, not yet. If someone asks me, I will say yes. Then I ask why they are making this awkward for me, put that guy on the defensive. Hopefully, I will keep a neutral tone, anger in this circumstance shows insecurity.

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quietquy wrote:
Just reading some topics reminded me of an incident 1-2 years ago now.

A mate's girlfriend openly asked me in front of a group of people I know straight up "Are you a virgin?"
I was immediately embarrassed and tried to make some quip but she wasn't accepting that and asked again. I think I just walked away ashamed which must have confirmed her suspicions.

On another occasion, again in a group of people, she told me "You shouldn't sit like that!" and her tone suggested I should be embarrassed. I was sitting on a chair with my right foot resting on my left knee (possibly vice-versa) which I consider perfectly normal. She then whispered in an obvious "I'm whispering about you" kinda way to a mate. I suspected at the time she was asking him if I was a virgin. His response of "Yeah, probably" didn't help quash these thoughts and I still suspect I was right. His tone suggested he didn't want to answer with me so close. It may not soon obvious from that why I would jump to that conclusion but the way she said it implied it, in my opinion.

Just wondering if this has happened to anyone else and how you coped with it or if not, how you wuld cope with it?



From time to time the question comes up (rarely).

I'm guessing you are young (under 21).

This is a pretty common question at those ages.

When you get older most people will just assume you are not. They will just ask questions like, "Are you married or in a relationship?".

The embarrasing old person question is something along the lines of,

"So tell me, your relationship experience?"

If you are a virgin over 25, telling that will really shock most people even if you are an unattractive, or timid person. People will expect that you don't get into relationships often but most people assume you are not virgins and assume you might maybe have some random "blue moon" sexual encounters.


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I'm late twenties so it's assumed that I'd have had some relationship experience by now though I'm pretty sure the small number of people I know, know my situation and so don't have to ask, my family too. The person who asked hadn't known me for long at all before asking the question so I obviously carry myself differently.


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No. I guess people feel that I'm good looking enough to get girls. That makes me feel better, at least...although my friends have been wondering what's up with my dating/relationship life for a long, long time (for about 10 years.)

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Yup, it's happened to me as well several times. I've told some people before they needed to ask, but they were all suspicious anyway. When I ask about what makes it so obvious a typical response is something along the lines of "the way you carry yourself". At this point, I am less nervous about how I come off to others though, as I don't care because I'm not getting anywhere anyway.

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No-one's asked me this question. I have been asked by guys 'do you have a girlfriend?'but when I say 'no', they don't push the issue, and don't find out I've never had one.

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No, but I'm really good at hiding it.

People usually suspect I'm gay.

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I've been asked before and usually calmly answer with "Yup, should that matter?" Since my friends are used to the stereotypical virgin dancing around the question or being shocked that someone deciphered their secret, they're more surpised that I seem so comfortable with the issue and change the subject without me having to. I get more pissed when people ask me if I'm gay and moreso if it's the third damn time in the same year.

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I was asked recently if I had a girlfriend, something that normally makes me defensive and I feel like I'm admitting to something awful. Most people without a girlfriend just laugh this off but for me it's not a temporary thing, as I have never had one. Anyway, I surprised myself by just saying I hadn't at the moment and didn't feel bad. Of course afterwards, I couldn't help overanaylsing the situation and I decided that the other person knew my situation but were too polite to say so.


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I remember that one time a guy asked me this question. No, he even said to me: "You are a virgin, aren't you?".


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I kept it a secret for over a year after I went off college, then made the mistake in confiding in my oneitis friendzone crush at the time whom I thought was a trusted confidante... I didn't specifically tell her to keep it to herself, but she knew I was ashamed of it because she tried to comfort me that it was no big deal, etc.... let alone the fact I was an idiot for telling that to someone I was attracted to, because I thought we had this connection blah blah... anyway, she told her girlfriends and word got back to my guy friends and boy did I get some hazing over it! Lesson learned. Would probably have been less embarrassing if they had just figured it out and asked.

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Yeah, but not often, and the ones that are asking to poke fun at me usually don't bother - they have even more embarassing material to work with.

I assume everyone knows, even though I'm not (technically). It is obvious I'm not in the game, and I make a point of distancing myself from it now. Deep down, not only am I inexperienced, but I've learned to hate the sex act itself and everything it entails. I'd rather they believe I was a virgin so I don't have to describe how little interest I have in people.

Most people who knew me, could tell off the bat. Guys like me are not getting laid, for obvious reasons. To this day I get that question, but I haven't met any new people in the flesh and had enough of a conversation with them to even broach the subject.


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nope. nobody has asked me. if somebody asks me if i have a girlfriend I respond with, 'Not at the moment'. which stops further questioning.


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