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Surrogate Partner Therapy
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Author:  southofireland [ 03 Feb 2014, 21:04 ]
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Hookers are not legal here in Ireland. Whats more I dont have the nerve for trying it with anyone paid for or other wise.

Author:  foxyproxy [ 05 Feb 2014, 19:12 ]
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southofireland wrote:
Hookers are not legal here in Ireland. Whats more I dont have the nerve for trying it with anyone paid for or other wise.

Street hookers are, but consenting people agreeing to fuck each other for money isn't.

Easy enough to find escorts here. It's easy to find street hookers if you know where to look too despite the illegality. :lol:
http://escortireland.com/ [NSFW]

Also Fáilte to a fellow countryman. :coolbeans:

Author:  southofireland [ 06 Feb 2014, 13:39 ]
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foxyproxy wrote:
southofireland wrote:
Hookers are not legal here in Ireland. Whats more I dont have the nerve for trying it with anyone paid for or other wise.

Street hookers are, but consenting people agreeing to fuck each other for money isn't.

Easy enough to find escorts here. It's easy to find street hookers if you know where to look too despite the illegality. :lol:
http://escortireland.com/ [NSFW]

Also Fáilte to a fellow countryman. :coolbeans:


and their was me thinking I might be the only Irish guy here.
Thanks for saying hello. :coolbeans:

Author:  southofireland [ 10 Feb 2014, 16:47 ]
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I had a look at the link above. The all look a bit sad.
I dont have the ball to ring them anyway so................

Author:  Discombobulated [ 27 Oct 2014, 21:50 ]
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Isn't it all run by paramilitaries in Ireland?

Author:  RedneckCryonicist [ 05 May 2015, 05:13 ]
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I looked into that a few years ago. One of the cryonicists I know, Michael Riskin, has a sex therapy practice in Orange County, CA, where his clients work with sex surrogates.

I have doubts about sexual surrogacy. I would like to see data about whether incels who receive this sort of treatment can then go on to have regular sexual relationships.

http://www.sextherapycenter.org/

Author:  Nature Boy [ 05 May 2015, 07:47 ]
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I was just reading through their site again, which has been updated in the last few years since I originally posted the link, and I found this:
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Love-Shyness

Brian G. Gilmartin, an American psychologist who originally used this term, conducted research studies involving two hundred heterosexual men aged 19 - 24 and an additional one hundred men aged 35 -50. Love-shyness succinctly defines a degree of inhibition and the reticence with potential partners that is sufficiently severe to have prevented the subject from forming intimate relationships or participating in intimate or sexual encounters at any level. For example, a love-shy man will have trouble initiating conversations with women because of high levels of anxiety.

Causes for love-shyness typically include school bullying, child abuse, negative comparisons and continuous discouragement, verbal or emotional abuse from parents.

Because of their perceived lack of interest in women, love-shy men are sometimes assumed to be homosexual. This in turn, increases the anxiety of the love-shy man, assuming himself to be 'broken', 'flawed' or otherwise 'abnormal'.

Unfortunately, unwanted mid-life virginity, sexual inexperience and love-shyness is not widely recognised as a diagnostic criteria by the World Health Organisation and therefore by the psychiatric professional associations and guidelines. Fortunately, a more enlightened argument is now increasingly being made in mainstream clinical psychology that intimacy issues are so unique and core to one's humanity that love-shyness does constitute a legitimate area of clinical attention.

ICASA acknowledges the contribution to this section that has been made by the authors on 'Love-Shyness' in Wikipedia.
It's ironic that the Wikipedia article doesn't exist any more, because of a few fascist editors who cited its lack of acceptance in "mainstream clinical psychology" as reason enough to erase the article.

Author:  mbbx5va2 [ 28 Jun 2015, 21:48 ]
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I am curious about this method of recovery. I would prefer to see comments from people who have actually gone through with this before I go and spend a fortune on it.

The people who have come up with this therapy have simply ripped off an old ancient eastern practice and repackaged it for commercial gain.

Author:  Onceshy [ 11 Apr 2017, 20:13 ]
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I think it cannot be compared with a prostitute however one can have luck if she is willing to understand and talk about it.

Surrogate Partner Therapy applies in case it fits the cause of being incel. For instance fear of intimacy, problems in one´s self image as a sexual human being or expressing this. Of course it will help building sexual self confidence.

Someone who is having unconcious blocking thoughts, problems with self esteem, self worth or simply cannot imagine ever being in a relationship I guess regular therapies suit as well.

Apart from that there can be social problems having to do with communication, making a real connection.

Author:  Amber Sweet [ 12 Apr 2018, 01:17 ]
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Hey guys, interesting link. I'm a girl, trying to work better on my ability (or lack thereof) to create friendships/relationships. Does anyone wanna try talkin to a girl? I'm nice, and we can take it slow. Message me if ur interested,

Author:  Fairly shy [ 29 Apr 2019, 10:05 ]
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loveablenerd wrote:
Cheaper than a prostitute (per hour), and a whole lot more useful.
Looks like what Gilmartin advocated only better because it goes a lot further.

If I was still LS I would start saving for a trip to the UK right away.



Please note that the URL given by Nature Boy is slightly wrong (it generates a 404), but it still brings you to the correct site, from which you can navigate to the right place.

As things actually are, you might decide to take a trip to the UK anyway :D

I understood that Gilmartin proposed surrogates that would actually give sex - but it is a long time since I read his ideas.

I agree with you, most men here need help with the initial stages of starting a relationship. If they want to purchase sex, they can one way or another. I also do not think people with LS want to be slurred by the implication that all they want is loveless sex.

It seems to me, that help like this can really target the root problem that LS people experience - far more relevant than being diagnosed with a 'social disorder' and being prescribed antidepressants that make some impotent! I would guess that it would have helped me back when I was LS.

Men may find the idea of enrolling for this course scary, but in a way that is a good sign. Confronting some of the tension that LS men find in the area of romance, is going to be scary, but I would guess it is less scary than actually trying to ask a girl out, and if they can manage it, it could pay off handsomely.

This is one way to confront the real problem.

FS

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