Contempt for the guy who tries? A sense of guilt? Pity? Or maybe she has very little thought of why? Or maybe she feels superior?

Does she ever think that she may hurt the man? Does she ever think about hurtful consequences of rejection for the guy?

Are most of the rejections cold? Or maybe she has pangs of conscience in specific situations?

Any comments?

I can speak for my rejections, I sense only utter contempt in their cold words. But you never know five minutes later sarieas aka the white knight comes and say no they feel very sorry for you they are angels but just could not show their true feelings....

I always thought it was an utter sense of apathy.

Since women LOOOOOOOOVE attention, they are happy that a man showed interest in her. However, they don't really like the guy they just rejected (hence why they rejected him). When a woman says she wants to "let a guy down easy", its not because she cares about the guy, but rather because SHE doesn't want to feel bad about the situation; her FEELINGS are ALWAYS more important than anything else.

From what I've seem it's a sense of "I wish he didn't ask so I wouldn't have to turn him down", especially if there are mutual friends because it becomes awkward afterwards.

It really depends on how bitchy they are. I do believe some of them feel back afterward because they know the guy is disappointed and there are others who couldn't give a shit.

I think it ranges from annoyance, to anger, or perhaps she might not even recall any emotion whatsoever...like replying to whether or not she wants mustard on her hamburger or something.

I can't speak for all women only for myself.

It depends on what type of guy I am letting down and the situation. It depends a lot on what kind of feelings I think he is experiencing at the time as well.

If we are talking about rejecting a guy who comes across as a player then I don't really feel much about rejecting him as I am sure he isn't going to feel much about the rejection either, he will just move on to the next girl.

In some cases I have felt fear because the guy seemed aggressive or I sensed some anger from him.

If we are talking about guy just wanting to get to know me or a friend who had deeper feelings but for whatever reason I knew that I was not interested then I felt a combination of guilt (for getting his interest and not being able to return it), embarrassment for the guy, loss (if we were friends it would likely change the friendship out of a combination of him feeling rejected and me being afraid of leading him on by being too friendly) and sad (I can't really explain why but there is just a feeling of sadness) add a bit flattered for the fact he has shown an interest and at the same time feeling bad about feeling flattered. Also at the same time as feeling all that I felt a respect for the guy for having the courage to at least try for something he wanted.

They don't give a shit...until someone buries an axe in their head....

Mikey, have I mentioned lately what a scary fucker you are?

They probably do give a shit. They don't like to reject men. Many are just fed up with the sheer amount of guys giving them unwanted attention, that the rejection may be a bit harsher than anticipated. It probably also depends on who she rejects. Rejecting a friend may be more painful.

It is. I remeber asking openly my oneitis "What do you feel when you reject my feelings?". She frankly told me that it hurts her. She obviously had/has some feelings towards me, but her boyfriend is still more important. I can believe her because we know each other pretty well. At least I can learn about women and their patterns of thinking due to her.

Thanks singlegirl for detailed answer.

I agree with other guys too. Cold approaches of undesirable men = usually cold and heartless rejection.

They probably feel sadistic pleasure...

This thread would have sounded better being called "a praise to women's shallowness".Most of them feel a mix of indifference or contempt.

I think my oneitis did feel bad when she rejected me, too. We've known each other for several years. She was shaking beforehand, and said something was troubling her conscience. She explained that she liked and respected me, but she was virtually married to this guy, who she'd been with four years. She may or may not have had feelings for me. I'll probably never know now. She'll probably marry this guy.

Probably the same feeling I get when I have to reject someone, a sinking feeling of awkward guilt.