Hi,

Let me introduce myself. I'm Tyler. I'm 19 and my biggest ambitions is finding true love. I've been a selective mute almost half of my life. Selective mutism is a disorder in which you literally mute yourself and stop speaking because of extreme anxiety. Back in the years, I had good friends and I was the life of the party. I'd be the class clown and made up the funniest jokes ever. I swear, when I was around, nobody was sad. That's just how positive I was. Unfortunately, I was abused by my peers in GRUESOME ways. Ways that I don't and probably shouldn't mention here. I developed social anxiety and eventually I ceased speaking. Yes. You heard it right. I literally, COULD NOT say a word to anybody. I would have to write notes to my teachers and write on a piece of paper to communicate. All those years of my life, people wondered what was wrong with me? They thought I was rude and was nothing special when in my heart is really a burning passionate artist. They just didn't know. I literally couldn't speak. The only people I could talk to was my family. At home, it's nonstop talking. At school, I was mute. It's sad because my biggest ambition is true love and that's all I want. For all those years, I never said a word to a girl.

Then, one day, at the age of 17, I somehow managed to say a word to one of my teachers. From that day forth, I started speaking in schools again. Now, I suffer from love-shy and various social anxiety disorders. But you know what? I'm not going to give up so damn easily. I will find true love one of these days and I mean it with every piece of my willpower plastered into the pouring rain! I flew in the sky, over the oceans, in a dream that lasted forever and I will make those bonds last forever! So let it be that I will overcome this shyness! I hope this community will be able to support me and help me on my adventures to find true love.

Now, here are some things that you really need to know about me. First of all, I'm highly sensitive. Yes, to every little thing!Secondly, my preference of girls: I really like nice girls because they make me feel so warm and happy:) and cozy! Aww:) (Sorry, I tend to act feminine at times). Above all, I'm real sensitive! (So please, don't hurt me!) Any little word you say can hurt me! Also, I prefer girls that are intelligent, down to earth, and can make arguments but aren't necessarily geniuses. Furthermore, I want girls that take risks and are maniacs at heart. Thirdly, I'm overwhelmingly emotional. One second I may be daydreaming about true happiness and a second later, you may see me crying for no reason at all. If I see a girl I like, I will never let that girl go because when I find a girl I like, I follow my intuition not my logic. I may be love-shy, but for the girl that I fall in love with, I will protect them to the very end even if I have to risk my life. I believe in change and possibilities. I like things like philosophy, science, art, writing, composing, piano, and anything else that you can be creative with. I absolutely hate logic and I abhor mathematics.

My 15 dominant characteristics:

1) Persistent
2). Inventive
3). Creative
4). Romantic
5). Artistic
6). Humorous
7). Dreamer
8). Enthusiastic
9). Compassionate
10). Original
11). Sentimental
12). Ambitious
14). Confident
15). Heartfelt

Hi TylerVo, welcome. Not trying to give you a hard time here, but I wanted to point out, the tone of your post reads a bit odd. What I mean by that, is most people don't necessarily come on here with listing their positive datable traits as if it's a dating site. Some people might construe that as parody, as it sounds a bit naive about relationships, and about what this forum is generally about.

Just so you know, most of us here are a collection of misfits (mostly guys but a few girls), so approaching a group of misfit guys with all of your positive datable traits like you'd be looking for a date is a bit awkward? Also, many here might see a list like you listed as a bit comical or uninformed, by standards of what many women are truly looking for.

I'm not as extreme as some of the other posters here, but I wanted to just warn you that it does sound a bit naive. Many here believe that being a "nice guy, emotional guy, true love seeking guy, or sensitive guy" are actually the opposite of what many women are looking for in a guy, and that social dominance, financial resources, aggression, emotionless strength, and having good looks are paramount. Even to the point where merely reading a list like yours, would likely be an enormous turn off to the vast majority of women. I'm not trying to express hopelessness for you, but I think they are probably right in the majority of cases.

Myself, I've read a bit about selective mutism, as I suffer from a throat problem that hinders my speech and eating significantly (throat muscles go into spasms and clench very painfully). I know what it's like to not be able to talk, so I can say that is a very unfortunate situation to live with. It definitely influences how you interact with others, and if someone spent 8 years without that kind of communication, I could see it really altering the way they communicate with others.

You'll have to forgive me though, as your initial post reads a lot like what a clever parody poster or troll might post, based on some of the demographics here? Given people here liking to poke fun at naivety about women around here, and given my throat problem situation (I'm also an artist), it sounds a bit suspect?

You should stick around however. If you are a real poster, try to take into account what I just said, as it might help you in communicating here and in avoiding some of the pitfalls of being labeled a troll, alright?

I cannot go there, and will not go there.

Welcome Tyler, I hope you find some answers here that help you get where you're going. I will be honest with you and say, in my weeklong experience here, it isn't always constructive, some posts can drag you down... but these people seem honest, and insightful. I'm sure you'll find some stuff worthwhile here

I don't blame you for making this positive affirmation.




I might be uninformed, but the truth is, I'm not uninformed. You see, I'm well aware of the tendency of women to admire alpha male traits, but I have no desire to change my traits because I have reason to believe that such a change would leave me worse off.





True statement. But I still can't agree with you that just because this affirmation is true, that I should change my attitude. It is still unjustified and absurd to change my attitude for something that has little bearing on the whole quality of my happiness.




If I post my story on other forums and continue making posts that have no evidence that I'm a troll on those forums before I posted my story on this forum, then it would make sense to conclude that I intend to earn the respect of the members of those forums. Also if I have been a member on those forums for an extended time, then it is beyond a reasonable doubt that I am not a troll as a troll would probably be caught and banned from those forums long ago. I have been a member on those forums for a long time so it is improbable that I'm a troll on those forums and probably this forum. One more thing to note is that if I posted similar thoughts on other websites before I posted on this website, then this story is not constructed for the sole purpose of making fun of this community.



Thechak, I intend to stick around. It's been a while since I've seen this forum. I happened to visit a page of this forum indexed by Google and decided to give this forum another chance.

I will do what I feel is rational and justified.





Where?



Thank you.

So after only one (specious seeming, I might add) post and two years, you decide to pick up where you left off?

Making the matter seem more jocular than it really is to get by an argument as you've done justifies nothing. You didn't even consider my conditional refutation, that indisputable evidence proving my innocence exists on the web. Instead you used a strawman to avoid all reflective thought. Rammspieler, answer this: If I posted content similar to what I posted in my original post and strikingly similar in tone on other websites, before I made my post on this forum, then how is my story fabricated? I posted content similar in tone to the content in my original post on this website here, http://shaunaleelange.com/2009/07/21/fe ... tists-path in 2009, which is two years before I made my first post here. Now, see the email in the entry at the website indicated above? If you send an email to that address, asking if it's the real me, I can respond from that email indicating that it's me. Consequently, the person who made that entry is me. Since there is evidence that there was hypersensitive nature in me two years in the past, it is probably good to say that if I display such qualities now, that I'm not faking my actual behavior. Listen man, I don't mean any disrespect or anything, but all current observations and inferences meet the standard of proof that I'm not falsifying my behavior. Here's what I think. Your allegation bothers me, but I can sort of understand how you feel. My first post is certainly peculiar to many and is something to be cynical of. But it is not false. Yes, it's true. I didn't talk for eight years. But things have changed extensively since then. I've dated a profusion of women and finally broke out of my shell.