I have been close to kiss only one of my one-itis, the last one.

I think she fell in love with me at first when we forst met 1 year ago, though at the beginning I didn't care about her.

But then I also fell in love with her, because she was pretty and because she was in love with me (makes women very cute in my opinion). So we dated number of times, but I was too shy to touch her or kiss her, even though I had a lot of occasions. A few months ago we went to a place together for a weekend. Once again I was unable to do anything.

After the weekend I finally told her about my feelings but she told me it was too late. She didn't say why but I guess she has got more and more bored with my loveshyness, she has got much more experience in dating than me so she knows how men behave with women normaly. Girls want men, they don't want shy guy unable to do anything! I knew it but I was unable to behave properly when we were hanging out together. Basically because of the anxiety, the pressure.

What kills me is that it was possible, at the beginning she was in love with me. Unfortunately, when we met 1 year ago I wasn't experienced in dating/girlfriends I am now. I didn't know when to kiss, how to create the good conditions for a kiss, I was stuck. Now that I know all of that her feelings for me are dead while mines are still alive. F***!!!

Of all the times the girl back in high school came to my house, only once did I try to play slick and steal a kiss from her. She obviously saw that coming a mile away and warned me to back off, which I did.

Farthest... quickly glancing at her with probably a (involuntary) stupid needy expression, knowing that despite my pathetic attepmts to hide it, she knows that I like her, and may be I'm starting to freak her out.

She hugged me. A day later I told her to fuck off. Because she's a tease, and she knew that I was interested in her. So, she basically just made me feel bad, even if it wasn't on purpose.

Ha. I wish I'd been able to do this to my first 'oneitis' at school instead of falling for her and allow her to tease me for over a year and making my life depend on her talking to me!

Going out with, and hugging her.

Having lunch with her in a restaurant, however it was because we had to make a powerpoint for school and therefore we had to go to the city, and that's why we decided to eat together. Nowadays, we're always sitting next to each other in class, but I think neither of us dares to take the next step (if there is one... Maybe she just considers me a good friend, I don't know...).

She said to me today that the swimming pool in her city will be closed next month, and that she'll maybe go to the swimming pool of my city. I really hope she does, because then I'm again a step further. If she really goes swimming together with me, then it will be the first time we meet outside school just for fun... I really hope this will be true .

A few days ago I would have said "he took my hand 10 months ago and I missed the opportunity", but now I can finally say I've done a bit more. Last night at a party I touched him a lot, on the arm, the shoulder; I put my head on his shoulder, stroke his back when he was sitting next to me, shove my fingers in his hair, had his arm on my shoulder for a short time... And still he doesn't get anything, he's hopeless - but well at least he didn't reject me. And I'm surprised I managed to do all that, I'm quite happy I might say, it wasn't even as difficult as I thought it would be.

I'm glad you are taking initiative. As it wasn't as hard as you tought it would be, I think that the next step would be to tell him how you feel and finally find out if he is a worst LS case than the most in this forum or he is a shy guy but he's not interested in you.

Sorry, but that bold part made me laugh. You should have tried gently running your fingers through his hair and teasing it.. or maybe you did do that but didn't write it that way. Anyway, if/when you get the chance again you should find some way to sneakily feel his pulse and if you notice his heart is racing, then most likely is into you but doesn't know how to show it in which case you're going to have to do most of the work.

@bernard_marx: I think he's not interested and just being passive but weirdly enough I'm ok with the idea. I'll see that next time anyway.

@pr0n: I just looked up the word to be sure, and yeah it's not "shove", my mistake (it sounds brutal right?).
He's very placid anyway so I'm not sure I'd hear anything if I were close to him, but that's a good idea. And at least now I know I'm capable of doing something physical if the guy makes me feel safe and comfortable.

Got friendzoned

Was my girlfriend, had pretty much everything except sex. Put her on a pedestal and I thought I could overlook her bad points and focus on her good ones, in the end I couldn't.

Haven't had a oneitis since, or at least I've forced myself back down to earth when I've felt one forming.

I don't think I've ever had any oneitis to the extent of some people here have/had (probably thechak ), but I did have a few crushes on guys, and when I liked a guy, it was almost exclusive in that I would be fixated on him alone. Maybe that's what oneitis means.

There was this guy from the next class in high school. He was quite effeminate and liked to befriend the girls. I was really friendly with him, and would often smile and make small talks with him whenever I saw him. He was friendly back, but he was also friendly with all the girls in my group of friends. I got a call from him one day, and was really excited because he never called me before. I don't even think I ever gave him my number. It turned out that he was looking for someone to buy his PDA because he needed some cash. I didn't need a PDA. I bought it from him, and never heard from him back since.

Another one was a guy from college who would always throw a glance at me. I normally would have been oblivious to anything like that, but he was persistent. I became obsessed trying to catch him looking at me, and would often try to be near him. We weren't in the same class, but we shared some friends, and sometimes ended up at the same outings. We became friends. Later, I found out from his friends that he already got a girlfriend.

Yeah, the furthest I've ever gotten with any girl and the closest thing to oneitis I've had is you, but considering you're across the world, the 'farthest I've gotten,' is a pretty sad phrase, considering, lol.