Love shy and music?

Hacker · **Posted:** 20 Apr 2012, 02:41

Wikipedia wrote:

According to Gilmartin, the love-shy tended to prefer vocal love ballads such as Broadway theatre music, brassy jazz music, easy listening, film soundtracks and light classical music, but not traditional classical music. A few also mentioned having a strong liking for country and western. Rock music of almost every kind was disliked by the love-shy, but only on an aesthetic level, not on moral grounds. Gilmartin noted that surprisingly few of the love-shy men mentioned female singers.

Gilmartin concluded that the majority of love-shy men prefer music with emotional/escapist themes and rich, beautiful melody. As a result, love-shy males dislike music that is noisy, loud, dissonant or amelodic in their point of view. The non-shy men Gilmartin interviewed typically enjoyed rock music and would only buy rock albums. The music love-shys enjoyed was considered boring by most of the non-shy men.

I found this interesting because 90% of what i listen to is extreme metal/hardcore punk/combination of the two. Because of the level of stress and anger that LS gives me i like this extremely aggressive music. Its a total escape for me. The brutal music and aggressive lyrics kinda pick me up. its when like if your mad and want to smash something.

Im curious to know if your love shy shy effects the type of music you listen to, and why you like that type of music (related to love shy)

Erebus · **Posted:** 20 Apr 2012, 06:36

Hacker wrote:

Wikipedia wrote:

According to Gilmartin, the love-shy tended to prefer vocal love ballads such as Broadway theatre music, brassy jazz music, easy listening, film soundtracks and light classical music, but not traditional classical music. A few also mentioned having a strong liking for country and western. Rock music of almost every kind was disliked by the love-shy, but only on an aesthetic level, not on moral grounds. Gilmartin noted that surprisingly few of the love-shy men mentioned female singers.

Gilmartin concluded that the majority of love-shy men prefer music with emotional/escapist themes and rich, beautiful melody. As a result, love-shy males dislike music that is noisy, loud, dissonant or amelodic in their point of view. The non-shy men Gilmartin interviewed typically enjoyed rock music and would only buy rock albums. The music love-shys enjoyed was considered boring by most of the non-shy men.

I found this interesting because 90% of what i listen to is extreme metal/hardcore punk/combination of the two. Because of the level of stress and anger that LS gives me i like this extremely aggressive music. Its a total escape for me. The brutal music and aggressive lyrics kinda pick me up. its when like if your mad and want to smash something.

Im curious to know if your love shy shy effects the type of music you listen to, and why you like that type of music (related to love shy)

Yeah, it's not true. Extreme metal music (black metal, doom metal, thrash metal, death metal) is the big part of my life. I love metal music since my youth days. I enjoy aggressive, melancholic and very dark sounds. I am also into all kind of avangarde rock, shoegaze, moody jazz, dark ambient, some classical, neo-classical and ethereal folk.

Cherrystar · **Posted:** 20 Apr 2012, 07:40

I prefer loud dance music. Anything slow or ballady/romantic, definitely not!

Not_Your_Average_Joe · **Posted:** 20 Apr 2012, 07:49

I've actually become rather addicted to "Late Night Alumi" these days/nights. I discovered them shortly after listening to Kaskade.

oncebitten55 · **Posted:** 20 Apr 2012, 08:11

Hacker wrote:

Wikipedia wrote:

According to Gilmartin, the love-shy tended to prefer vocal love ballads such as Broadway theatre music, brassy jazz music, easy listening, film soundtracks and light classical music, but not traditional classical music. A few also mentioned having a strong liking for country and western. Rock music of almost every kind was disliked by the love-shy, but only on an aesthetic level, not on moral grounds. Gilmartin noted that surprisingly few of the love-shy men mentioned female singers.

Gilmartin concluded that the majority of love-shy men prefer music with emotional/escapist themes and rich, beautiful melody. As a result, love-shy males dislike music that is noisy, loud, dissonant or amelodic in their point of view. The non-shy men Gilmartin interviewed typically enjoyed rock music and would only buy rock albums. The music love-shys enjoyed was considered boring by most of the non-shy men.

I found this interesting because 90% of what i listen to is extreme metal/hardcore punk/combination of the two. Because of the level of stress and anger that LS gives me i like this extremely aggressive music. Its a total escape for me. The brutal music and aggressive lyrics kinda pick me up. its when like if your mad and want to smash something.

Im curious to know if your love shy shy effects the type of music you listen to, and why you like that type of music (related to love shy)

Personally I like the love ballads from the 1970's and 80's. I also like hard rock bands from those times to,
but romantic songs never bothered me when I was still LS/Incel at all, as it seems to with some here.

Being a driver who had to grow up with the national 55 MPH speed limit, set back in 1974 to 1990, I just love this song.

Damn straight I ain't driving no 55 miles per hour. Rock on, Sammy !!!!!! :clap:

Dsea · **Posted:** 20 Apr 2012, 08:48

Like Erebus, I mostly love metal, and rock, so nothing applies to me here. I like "rich and beautiful melodies" and it's not incompatible with loud or agressive music. Symphonic metal, for example. I don't like Broadway stuff, I hate jazz and brass instruments, I like film OST but no classical music - light or not. And I mostly listen to female vocalists, with a few exceptions - Katatonia, Anathema, Dream Theater etc.

jeje · **Posted:** 20 Apr 2012, 09:33

I listen to rock/metal and play guitar in several rock/metal bande

I'm pretty open-minded about music actually.
It has nothing to do with my LS,

mrping · **Posted:** 20 Apr 2012, 12:13

I think he stumbled into a cultural thing here. Music varies so much....god damn these pills can't think

Cherrystar · **Posted:** 20 Apr 2012, 12:45

I think it really depends on what you, your friends, or indeed your family listen to.

During my teenage years, I listened to pop, gradually moving into the more club type music. But I'm now partial to some mild rock, aswell the pop and all the dance stuff I used to and still listen to. I can listen to different genres but the only one I don't have an ear for is metal nor soppy stuff.

Fonduman · **Posted:** 20 Apr 2012, 14:52

i'm not sure if I can say I like a genre, because i'm very selected in what I pick, and end up liking only a few bands from each genre. I dont like extreme metal vocals, although I can tolerate the interjection of such sometimes. Most nu-metal type stuff is too smug sounding for me. pinch harmonics every 3 seconds ftl.

thread on the mechanics behind my musical tastes:
http://www.love-shy.com/lsbb/viewtopic.php?f=2&t=14996&p=285866#p285866

my favourite bands are probably megadeth, slayer, iced earth, my dying bride.

honourable mentions to gnr, metallica, buckethead.

Stranger1983 · **Posted:** 20 Apr 2012, 19:54

I've been playing drums in Hardcore and Deathmetal bands for well over a decade. I do find some of the soulfull emotional soundscapes, like ambient techno pleasant though. Aphex Twin, chemical bros, that sort of thing is probably among my favorite not-heavy music selections. Also really like Classic Rock, sometimes I feel like I should have beenthe age I am now in the 1970s. Regardless I'm on a Team Sleep kick right now...

This song with the video makes it one of the most beautiful sensory experiences I've ever encountered

Kurhein · **Joined:** 02 May 2012, 19:35 **Posts:** 21

I've noticed that I haven't really sought out to listen to much music at all. I used to when I was younger but lately I just prefer silence. Anyone got a clue why that may be?

Adam82 · **Posted:** 06 May 2012, 02:56

I listen to a wide variety of music, including classic rock, progressive rock, some electronica and ambient music, some jazz, light classical, heavy metal, etc. I am extremely passive and non violent in real life, but I love me some metal. And I'm as LS as they come. I don't agree with Gilmartin on this point. Some of my favourite bands are Led Zeppelin, The Beatles, Pink Floyd, Black Sabbath, Iron Maiden, Metallica, Dream Theater, Opeth, Porcupine Tree, Rush, Radiohead, The Who, Alice in Chains, Soundgarden, The Kinks, The Rolling Stones, and many others.

gmartinfan · **Posted:** 06 May 2012, 05:12

I like just about everything except: hard-core gangsta rap, and "new" country music (basicaly most country music pre-Garth Brooks). Saw Dolly Parton on an interview a few months ago.....she's a lot of fun

Yeah, I have metal, rock, pop, jazz, easy-listening, soul, R&B, new wave, alternative, electronica, acid-jazz, punk, some hardcore, vocals, folk, psychedelic....yeah, just about anything except the above two.

Braodway showtunes??????? Eh? Sure a few here and there.......liked "Jersey Boys" and I'm guilty...I saw "Rent" in San Francisco back in the mid 1990's.

Fonduman · **Posted:** 07 May 2012, 03:15

I felt compelled to share a realisation.
the riff starting about 1:18 here is probably the closest thing to a representation of my own experience of introverted thinking, my dominant cognitive function, that i've found. it's clear, serene, pristine, coherent, lucid, beautiful. When you see me sat in contemplation, lost in an inner world, this is a little bit like what it's like. exploring, is the best word.

Quote:

Ti seeks precision, such as the exact word to express an idea. It notices the minute distinctions that define the essence of things, then analyzes and classifies them. Ti examines all sides of an issue, looking to solve problems while minimizing effort and risk. It uses models to root out logical inconsistency.[12] Ti is calm, articulate, and aware of the forces that bind reality together. As introverted Thinkers, INTPs spend the majority of their time and energy ordering the interior, logical world of principles and generalizations in an effort to understand.

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