So a while back I was talking with a female friend of mine who told me she found her boyfriend by using Okcupid.com. I've tried internet dating before, e-harmony and match.com. even went so far as Craigslist personals. Needless to say, none of these endevours reaped me anything close to a fruitfull experience. So when I was assured that I should give it a shot because Ok cupid is WAYY BETTER than anything else, and its free, I figured what the hell.

Its been about a week since I opened up an account, all I've really been doing is answering the most ridiculous questions, and being offered "matches" that I dont think I'd like very much. I'll certainly give it some time because I really have nothing to lose, but allready I'm feeling dissapointed by it. Seems like the women (girls) on this site are fat, bisexual attention whores, or ultra liberal femme-tards.

Anyways, just curious if anyone else has used this service, any luck as far as actually getting a response and going on a date? Any other insight?

I like how almost all the questions are just a rephrasing of the same questions about sex, drugs, and whether or not you're Christian.

I did OKcupid for a little while. I got a few responses from women, and at first I was really excited, but I never got a date out of it. I did get a girl who agreed to go have a cup of coffee (I felt great about this), but she canceled the next day (I think she was nervous; I mean I was nervous, but she really didn't have to cancel).

Anyway, I thought I had a good response rate, but then when I added up the numbers, I found that my response rate was significantly lower than for most males (it was way lower; in the bottom 5%). I'm just not that desirable in the dating game (I believe this is what they call 'sexual market value') I'm below average height, I'm 30 years old, I'm unemployed, I live with my parents, and I weigh about 280 pounds.

I think the most important thing is that I'm 30 years old and unemployed. Men who are over the age of 22 and make less than 50,000 dollars a year have a significantly lower response rate. To me this shows that most women are completely unrealistic; I mean $50,000 a year is well within the top half of the income distribution; yet women expect all men age 22 or over (which is really young) to make more than that. It's ridiculous.

The data also show that women consider 80% of men to be less than average in attractiveness. This is not data compiled from a 'hot or not' type of site, but rather data carefully compiled by the owners of the OKcupid site, and published on their blog. I see no reason to doubt the integrity of the data.

Anyway, my current plan is to go back to school and get a degree, then get a job that makes more than $50,000 a year. I'm sure I'll have a better response rate once I have a good job. I'm purely interested in jobs from this degree. I've been talking to the undergraduate advisers in many degree programs, and I'll go for the one that has the best job prospects. If you guys have any ideas for a major, I'd be very interested.

Thank you, appreciate your input on this, even though what you say is incredibly discouraging, at least its realistic.

Glad you asked.

Personal Perusals from actual profiles:

“There is no such thing as being too picky.”
Ummm...yeahhh....

“I didn’t have my first kiss until I was 19. Yeah, I’m pretty chaste.”
Chaste? Not yet...

"Don't message me if you don't know the difference between their, there, and they're. Your dumb if you can't"


You must play the part of entertainer. Girls who message you give bullcrap messages like "how are you?". If you send her a message, such as:

"Hi – I’d like to get to know you so here’s your message! I love being sociable too and liked what I was seeing in your profile. Have you ever gone swing dancing?"

She will reply like, "No i have never gone swing dancing." and expect you to carry it on somehow. I once had a girl answer one of my questions with nothing but three books. The next day, she listed three more books...

As a matter of fact, just minutes ago, I recieved just a similiar message. I sent this nice-looking gal a three-sentence message. She replied, "I am not a sapiosexual." Big fucking period. Nice.

I love you girls. Your intelligence and wit is admirable.

I've been on there a month and a half and so far nothing significant has happened.Most of the bitches just flake before an in person meeting.Maybe my luck could change,we'll see.

yep, that summarises the site.

they all think they're so unique and precious and special and intelligent

No problem.

You know, even though I never got a date out of it, I still consider it to be a positive experience. I did communicate with several pretty girls. Considering the marks against me it's a surprise any of them responded back. And although she chickened out, I did get a 'yes' from a girl, so that should show that it's at least possible for me to get a girl. I'm confident that once I improve my career situation a little bit girls will be more responsive.

So I really think you should do it. It's frustrating at times, but it can be rewarding as well.

I've been nagged by people to try dating sites, but they look like a bunch of complete unmitigated garbage. All of them. I wouldn't waste my time with these attention seekers.

some of you guys on this site are pretty picky for being so desperate...

it's not like you'd have to find someone to marry, it's just a date.

of course, I'm too shy to put a picture up and create a profile in the first place, but if I wasn't, by golly... I'd go out with the fattest, most bisexual attention whoring femme-tard on the site.

i'm not desperate, i'm LS. I choose who deserves my affection with great care. in any case, you're missing the point. I was making fun of how picky they are. it doesn't matter if we were more lenient, because they think they are goddesses. they expect a guy to be tall, good looking, rich, confident, entertaining and educated before even considering him. and even then, they'd probably set him a bunch of tests to pass.

I've never had any dates via OKC although I did make a friend through the site.

Judging by that little test they made for compatibility, I'd probably rather ask random people in cold approaches or semi cold approaches than do that.

just cancelled my account with Christian Cupid. Same premise as OKCupid, but Christian based.

I was on for two months. The "matches" they set me up with I would email, flirt, and the like and my reply was crickets chriping, and tumbleweeds blowing across my screen.

The ONLy two who replied to me were Russian women living in the UK, and they "demanded" that they wanted to come to the USA in a way that Slavics only can demand (unblinking stares). I looked at their faith, and it says church attendance: Rarely

I go every week.

I got tired of the "same thing" that I have experinced on Plenty of Fish, match.com, eharmony, ChristianMingle, and ChritianCafe.

be hot. be rich, say something hilarious or degrading to me immediately..........

I'm done with all dating sites now.

yeah, because they can.

when 100% of the guys want only the top tier females, they're going to force us to compete. the way around that is to go for the girls no one else wants...