I've never had anyone who wasn't love-shy/incel themselves understand it. I've tried to explain it to people, they just don't buy it. It's always "be patient....the right one will come around." Either that, or I get crap PUA advice.
I don't know if it's a love-shy/incel thing, but it seems in this society in general it's verboten for a guy to care deeply about relationship issues. It automatically makes him a pvssy emo-wimp, drama queen, etc who needs to "man up" and basically deny his needs and feelings as a human being. At best he is "encouraged" to be a player (and then is subsequently chastised for it, ie "all men are pigs"). It's certainly not something that can be talked about with male friends, and obviously female friends (if you have them) won't "get it" and probably get pissed at you for being an evul misogynist who thinks women should bow to your whim and date you just cause you happen to be a half decent guy. At least guy friends can do a good job taking your mind off things, even if they can't legitimately help with anything.
another reason (aside from the usual stuff discussed here) I think there are fewer incel/ls females is that they are "allowed" to care about relationship issues without losing status/respect in the eyes of others. They have plenty of support to work through it compared with guys.
I have taken my time to read empty caldera's posts on LS and two things are clear as day:
a) he is totally insane
b) he is incredibly intelligent.
Newsflash: EVERYONE acts in their own interests and do things to get the approval of others. The idea that men because they appear to be good fellows are calculating people who do every little thing to get people to like them is feminist propaganda.
03/03/10 + 03/18/10